During the recent half decade I have been so fortunate, as Brene Brown* describes, to have completed the journey from the “not being good enough” shame struggle to believing and knowing “who I am is enough.” Shame from having mental illness has left me. Shame from being related to other people with mental illness has left me also. I have been graced.
I only recently realized I had made this journey. I understand now how much shame – and my growing resilience in the face of shame – had influenced the course and depth of my mental illness through the years.
It didn’t happen, this journey to being shame-free, automatically. I happened to want to do what is recommended for building shame resilience for other reasons; I wanted to help others cope with mental illness. Often, as part of my work, I told my story of family and personal mental illness. I didn’t realize then, twenty five years ago, how much nurturance I would receive from assisting others. My story of the power of shame and how I arrived at healing from shame follows …. [Read the Full Article]
* Brene Brown, PhD, LMSW Audio lecture, 2012: Men, Women & Worthiness, The experience of Shame and the Power of Being Enough. Available on CD at Soundstrue.com PO Box 8010/Boulder CO 80306.